I have been writing love letters for a long time, probably since I was about fourteen. I remember writing a love letter to a girl in junior high school, and translating it into French because she said she could speak it. While this was lame, and it did not work – the failure helped build my confidence and I have since then become a master at writing love letters.
This guide is intended to be read by persons in a long distance relationship. Being in a long distance relationship is hard – planning times to be on the phone, living in different time zones, and doing your best to communicate effectively. Sending your partner physical letters helps because they convey your thoughts and feelings. They are also a physical sign of your dedication to the relationship and love for your partner.
In addition to the feeling you get when you open the letter after you receive it, you can turn to this letter when you are feeling lonely and miss your partner.
Below are some tips and ideas you can use when writing your letter.
First, you are going to need some stationary. If possible, find stationary that includes a theme that she is going to like. If you cannot do this or are having trouble, draw little sketches on the paper that you have written the letter on. She may laugh at your stick figure drawings, but she will find it cute and fall in love all over again.
Thinking about what to write.
Once you have chosen stationary start by telling your partner how much you have missed them, and that you constantly think about them. If you have a nickname for her, address the letter (not the envelope) using that nickname.
Add in the letter wonderful memories that you have both shared, if you know your partner would be comfortable with it – include some erotic ones.
“Remember when we went to see the fireworks on the pier, and we kissed under the explosions?”
Adding romantic memories in your letter with bring back those same feelings as your partner reads it and will also keep those memories fresh in both of your heads.
Tell your partner what makes him so special – the way he does things, or how he talks to you. “I love it when…” or “I love you because…”
Another great thing to add in your letters is “When I see you I am going to…” This is a way of telling your partner the things you want to do once you see each other again. This restores commitment and hope that you will once again be together.
Sometimes, depending on the length of the separation, you begin to wonder why you are putting yourself through this. Your partner will get these same feelings, but since we are committed to each other it is our responsibility to reassure one another that we will be together again.
You should end your letter with a powerful statement like, “I love you. Nothing will change that, because nothing will change the memories I have with you. The time we have spent together has been beyond wonderful, and I am looking forward to the future memories we will create.”
The most important part of your ending is including, “I love you.”
Smells can bring back a flood of memories because of the way our sense of smell is connected in the brain. Spray your letter with your cologne or perfume. In addition to writing about memories, you can help recollect them if they smell the same scent they did at the time.
I hope that this article has helped you. Good luck, and do not give up – when you both come back together after a long distance relationship your bond will be stronger than ever.
Continue to Part II of this article or read a real life example of a love letter that I have written.
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