Desperation doesn’t scream “I’m available” – it screams “please love me” in a way that only scares off potential dates. But how exactly do you avoid looking desperate? When you are under pressure it’s hard to avoid the demeaning behavior that one results to. We’ve listed a few tips to help you avoid looking desperate so you look like the confident person we know you are.
Don’t lie about job status or pretend to be someone you’re not. Eventually you’re going to slip or your potential partner is going to find out what you’ve lied about and you’ll end up losing your chance with that person. Is that really a risk you’re willing to take?
Putting forth effort into the relationship and/or date is great – it shows the person you are truly interested and want to be there. But trying too hard is a different story. When it clearly shows that you’re doing everything in your power to get the attention of the other person, or paying extravagant amounts of money on the date – you are going to seem desperate. You have probably heard before that when guys “don’t care” they attract more women – while this may be partly true, I don’t suggest changing who you are. Ease up on the effort, but don’t make it seem like you don’t care.
Avoid being creepy! Staring and/or stalking someone is no way to go. This is a huge flag for desperation and could get you arrested in certain states. What you will end up doing is causing the person you like to fear you, which is the exact opposite of what you’re trying to do. If you are one of those people that just “can’t stop looking at her” – buy a pair of sunglasses. This will allow you to look at your person of interest without seeming like a pervert. This technique works well when you’re out girl watching – but you didn’t get that from me!
If you’re one of the many people out there part of the online dating scene, here is a few quick tips for you.
If you message more than once without an answer and stalk the last time they logged in, so you know that must have checked your message by now – move on to the next one. Recent research conducted by UC-Berkeley shows that only 15.9 percent of women that are messaged by men respond. That’s a very small percent. Chances are she has read your message, but isn’t interested.
Whether online or offline – if you get the sense that someone isn’t interested then you should move on. There is no sense in wasting your efforts on someone who isn’t interested in you. If you do so, the person you could truly be happy with might slip past unnoticed. Remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea and it’s not the end of the world if one person doesn’t like you.
Failure is inevitable at some point and helps us build confidence – no matter how smart or attractive you are, there is someone in the world that is not attracted to you. Pay attention to the other person’s body language – it is easy to see if another person is uncomfortable by the way they position their body. Folded arms usually creates a sort of defensive shield blocking out the world – means a lack of trust between you both or the person is feeling anxiety.
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